Happy experiences arise when there are 4 factors present. And they are very much linked to the process of fulfilling one's curiosity:
1. The person has to be in realization of his/her already-abundant liberation/freedom,
2. must already be surrounded by qualities of compatibility/harmony/beauty/peace,
3. has to experience his/her curiosity of something being fulfilled in the present now moment,
4. the curious experience must enhance one's current level of compatibility/harmony/beauty/peace.
It takes as much as 4 factors for a person to be technically 'happy',
which is why it is not an easy and frequent emotion to achieve.
Let me give an example based on the 4 factors—
Factor 1 — A person has enough freedom and money to feel the
liberation to do what he wants. Factor 2— He has to be living in an
environment that he is comfortable with, most likely a large, beautiful
and tranquil house. Factor 3 — He is currently playing an interesting
game or eating a very tasty exotic dessert that he is curious about and
Factor 4 — it generates very pleasurable/harmonious feelings. He is
feeling very contented and has no desire for other things. Such a
scenario is what most people would generally recognize as a happy
moment. Another similar happy experience could be that of a person on an
exotic holiday or a birthday boy or girl opening many nice presents.
The above stated is the highest level of Happiness possible. The
second highest level of Happiness is when a person has factors 1 and 2,
but is in the process of working towards achieving factors 3 and 4. An
example is a person in a liberating and compatible environment working
or waiting to watch an exciting movie, TV drama, game or waiting to eat
delicious food in a nice restaurant with good company. The third level
of Happiness only contains factors 1 and 2. An example would be a
wealthy person feeling liberated from poverty and living in a beautiful
home. However, such a situation without fulfilling curiosity would
easily lead to boredom and has potential to easily dip into the
depressing emptiness that many wealthy people often feel.
The common notion of finding Happiness is to focus on feeling
"positive" or "looking on the bright side of things". However, these old
sayings were very vague because people did not really understand the
meaning of feeling "positive" as there were no clearer and more definite
A psychiatrist once told me that his definition of finding Happiness
is to "feel satisfied", which is similar to practicing gratitude or
feeling grateful/contented for what one has. However, feeling grateful is still
not a clear enough method to properly gain Happiness because if a person
tries to feel grateful for his miserable current circumstances, he will
still be focused on the limitations/restrictions that exists in his
current reality which will constantly remind him of his own
misery — this will only get him stuck/stagnant on feeling miserable. The
right method is to firstly get the person focused on feeling grateful
for the liberation that he possess, which he can use to improve his
I feel it is the focusing on one's liberation that is the first most
crucial step to truly make one feel happy later on. By using the
liberation/freedom to simply go out and do one's favorite things and be
more creative and expressive allows the practice of one's liberation. It
is the exciting rush of feeling free that I believe constitutes the
true emotions of Happiness. People in this world have lots of access to
do lots of great things, they just don't realize it. Happiness is a
feeling that requires an active process to manifest, which is through
the practice of one's existing liberation. Misery is the direct opposite
of Happiness. People feel miserable because they feel stagnant/stuck by
lots of restrictions and limitations and they can't feel free.
So, there is always an important reason how a person feels happy,
there is no way people can feel happy for no reason as one book about
Happiness has claimed. A person is happy because he is focused on his
liberating freedom that is the true explanation of "feeling positive",
and as he uses his liberation to do what is beneficial for him, he feels
the exciting/adventurous/adrenaline rush of freedom/liberation that is
the emotion of Happiness. And does not matter if he tries and fails, it
is the intention that matters so there will be no regret of not trying.
And as he does this kind of "focus on liberation" constantly to find his
true self, his mental and physical well-being can improve drastically
and he will become a more wholesome and healthy individual.
Even if a person has a terminal illness but chooses to focus on
things that gives him liberation, he can still be happy. Remembering
past memories of how one achieved great liberation for the self can also
revive the old feelings of happiness and can motivate one to regain it
in the present.
The old method of "feeling positive" and "looking on the bright side
of things" requires the person to look for liberation outside of the
self, which is wrong. The right way is to firstly recognize the
liberation within the self/perception and work from there.
I have thought about why gays are given such a name. "Gay" also means
happy and I think that is a very suitable description because gays
constantly focus on feeling liberated through the process of being
unique and creative or self-expressive, which makes them happy.
I perceive a happiness instructor to be very similar to a personal
fitness instructor, the client has to be constantly reminded to focus on
their liberating strengths rather than their negative focus on
restriction, in order to change their old behaviors and improve
themselves. So it is possible to be very mentally fit in